Proverbs 6:20

Proverbs 6:20

My son, keep your father’s command, And do not forsake the law of your mother.

Proverbs 19:14

Proverbs 19:14

Houses and wealth are inherited from parents,
but a prudent wife is from the LORD

Proverbs 18:22

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the LORD.

Proverbs 14:1

Proverbs 14:1

The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

A woman is to actively seek to serve God. This is a command for a woman to actively build her home. A woman may not have the authority, but she does have the power and the influence to build her home or tear it down.

Proverbs 14:1

The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Proverbs 12:4

Proverbs 12:4

A wife of noble character is her husband's crown,
but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

A wife has a huge influence over her husband. The woman is the glory of a man and she can be a crown or she can be a disgraceful wife that causes disgrace and decay to the man.

Proverbs 12:4

Proverbs 12:4

A wife of noble character is her husband's crown,
but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

Proverbs 11:16

Proverbs 11:16


A kindhearted woman gains respect,
but ruthless men gain only wealth.

Proverbs 11:16

Proverbs 11:16

A kindhearted woman gains respect,
but ruthless men gain only wealth.

Just because a woman cannot teach or have authority over a man, it does not mean that she is not to be highly respected, and even respected over certain men. A woman who embraces God’s calling for her is more respected than ruthless men who have neglected their role and responsibility before God.

Proverbs 31:31

Proverbs 31:31

31Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.

Even though this woman does not sit at the gates or discuss issues with the men, her reputation precedes her and brings her honor at the place of influence of the city. She is respected and has influence on the affairs of the city and I believe this respect and influence is greater than some of the men in the city. This verse also shows that it is not necessary for a woman to speak to influence the church or society for that matter. If she walks in womanhood and godliness she will influence many, more than if she tried to teach or take authority. And her influence will not only be a gain to her, but as we see in this chapter it is a gain to the husband, children, and the city; all these become greater not less because of her.

From a letter I wrote: I want to leave you with this thought. The Proverbs 31 women did not sit at the gates and yet she was praised at the gates. It is my belief that even though she was not in a place of authority, nor did she venture to speak at the gates, she had more influence than many of the men in the town. I would even venture to say that she had more influence than some of the men who sat at the city gates (I put this lightly, I think she had great influence). On top of this it says her husband is known in the city gates, when he sits among the elders. This is not a quality about the husband, it is a statement about the women (Proverbs 31 is about the wife not the husband). Also 1 Peter 3 shows how this character would influence an ungodly man. Imagine what it would do with a godly man. Also I know as a man there stronger way a woman could influence me; there is something about this kind of woman that challenges a man to be more than he is. I think power and influence in God's kingdom does not look like the world. And that is why I am not afraid to say, lets obey this. The scripture says that he makes the strong things foolish by what the world calls weakness. God's strength is often made powerfully evident in the things the world calls weak. And the greatest in the kingdom of God is the one who serves.

Proverbs 31:30

Proverbs 31:30

30Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

Part of a letter I wrote: How does God define beauty? – simply; womanhood. Proverbs talks about womanhood and says, "her worth is far above jewels . . . . Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all. Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised." We have been lied to. This is the standard of beauty. This is captivating. It is captivating beauty that is far above any other standard of beauty. It is a standard of what should attract us as men as we pursue to find a wife, physical attributes should no longer be the standard. And it is a standard by how we treat other women other then our wife. It is not only our duty to have this as our standard of beauty but it is also our delight and exceeding joy, as God transforms our definition of beauty to His and His passions become our own. Women need this from us, the passion of God through us, declaring to them that they as women are beautiful, more precious then jewels. Oh, how "good and acceptable and perfect" is the will of God and how wonderful is His gifts to us!


If God defines beauty as womanhood, I want to defend this as a man. The world has attacked the integrity and strength of womanhood. A man does not sit back idle while a woman is beaten, but instead steps in front of her and defends her. Women are oppressed in the church by those who will either ignore scripture or discredit the Word and the Word’s power and wisdom. On one side, oppression comes from restricting the role of a woman, till it loses its strength, treating them as worthless and not allowing them to have influence. On the other side, the role of a woman and its strength is all together denied. This picture is contrary to the picture in the scriptures, where the man is the head, but serves her as Christ would serve the church. This struggle has played out throughout history and has even entered the church. One of the most controversial scriptures regarding this is "in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve." What freedom is in this verse for women! It underscores a strength and influence that God has given women. And yet some have used this to oppress women further than what this scripture allows and choked the life out of the Word of God and others have ignored it, and denied the power and strength of womanhood and power of the Word of God.


I will try to explain. Paul writes this because, "For Adam was formed first, then Eve." This was God’s heart before sin entered the world. God created Adam first, because he was to be a man. We as men are to embody manhood. He was created first because he had a role to fill that was specific to a man, to lead out, to be a king, warrior, father, priest, to display the glory of God. The woman was also given strength, power, and influence, but as woman and not as a man. I said the verse in 1 Timothy 2 was freedom for a women. What does it give to a woman? It says, "Let a woman learn in silence with all submission." Our culture, paints a different picture of these words then the scripture. It is a command that provides a woman as much influence in the affairs of the church as a man. Her role is vital to the strength of the church. In 1 Peter 3:3 "Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging of the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." How strong is this gentle and quiet spirit! It is strong enough to change the hard heart of an ungodly man. "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear." If it has this affect on the ungodly man, how much more so on the godly men. A woman like this will influence the direction of the church and build the church in the Lord and challenge the church to be more. Far from being weak, it is an amazing strength. "God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty" 1 Corinthians 1:27. This is an incorruptible beauty that is very precious in the sight of God. Oh, how indescribable is the wisdom of God! It is in God’s heart for a woman to display His character, glory, majesty, and strength through a "gentle and quiet spirit" and to powerfully influence the church "in silence." When 2 Timothy commands a woman to be in silence, it is not a restriction, but a command to live fully and to influence the church fully. This is a woman’s strength. This is a woman’s power. When the scripture says "in silence" it does not mean inaction, but action. If anything, this truth is more demanding on a woman than any concept of the world. As an example, Proverbs 31 talks about a woman, who had the heart of her husband and children. She was respected and trusted, not only by her husband and children, but also by the city. She was a woman who had strength and influence and helped to shape the course of her family and city, but she did this "in silence" and with a "gentle and quiet spirit". It is obvious from this chapter that this is a call to action. The scripture speaks much more on the role of women and their call to action. This letter would be long if I wrote on all that God has commanded a woman to do. I could go further into theology (I am barely touching the surface with the word of God) and history, and further into all that God has for women. I believe that women have a huge influence in the church. I have seen women turn the tide in situations in a way that no man could. God has given them a strength that we as men cannot imitate well. We need them, desperately. But I am writing this not to defend this so much, but more so to say that want to learn to be a man who encourages women to live fully. As a man I want to defend this beauty and strength that God has given women. I want to stand up when the world tries to come in and oppress her from every direction. I want to defend her honor, her integrity, her strength, her beauty, and her womanhood. And I want to honor God, in honoring my sisters, His daughters, His princesses.


God has called us men to a place of stepping up, this is our role. I want to do that and be an example of a godly man, for our women. Women need us to be men of God. I want to be this. I am writing this because I am weak and I need the support of my brother’s to live this out and I want to express this desire, so they can walk with me in this. I do not believe a man lives alone, but instead goes to battle with his brothers. I am asking you and my brothers to hold me accountable and to demand this from me."

Proverbs 28,29

Proverbs 28,29
28Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
29"Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all."

A woman like this will be praised. Her witness will be seen in the world and people will note that she has been with Jesus.

Proverbs 31:27

Proverbs 31:27

7She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

She is diligent and faithful. She builds her home.

Proverbs 31:25,26

Proverbs 31:25,26

25Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she smiles at the future.
26She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

This woman is knowledgeable, wise, gives good council and instruction. I believe that in all that a woman does she should always be presenting the gospel and the character of God in both deeds and word. She may not be able to teach or have authority over a man, but that is not excuse for her not to teach through her life and in the times that are appropriate for her to speak, her words should fall sweetly and speak of the depth of God. If others are not learning from a woman, she is not walking in the fullness that God has for her.

Proverbs 31:24

Proverbs 31:24

24She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies belts to the tradesmen.

She is industrious.

Proverbs 31:23

Proverbs 31:23

23Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.

This whole chapter is about the woman, not the man, and I believe this verse is about her as well. I believe it is saying this man has the reputation he has at the gates because of his wife. I think this is because of two things. Here godly walk and encouragement makes him a better man and her repetition brings him honor. She is the glory of her husband. Instead of speaking, I believe it is the role of a woman to build up men to speak, specifically her husband.

Proverbs 31:20

Proverbs 31:20

20She extends her hand to the poor,
And she stretches out her hands to the needy.

She not only looks after her own household but serves the needy. This quality was seen in the women of the early Church.

Proverbs 31:17-19

Proverbs 31:17-19

17She girds herself with strength
And makes her arms strong.
18She senses that her gain is good;
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hands grasp the spindle.

She is strong in her womanhood and senses her work as good and a delight. Womanhood is pleasant for her.

Proverbs 31:16

Proverbs 31:16

16She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings she plants a vineyard.

This woman is also industries and intelligent and is able to make financial decisions and take business opportunities that prosper her family.

Proverbs 13-15, homemaker

Proverbs 13-15

13She looks for wool and flax
And works with her hands in delight.
14She is like merchant ships;
She brings her food from afar.
15She rises also while it is still night
And gives food to her household
And portions to her maidens.

This woman attends and builds her home well.